Being home alone sounds great doesn’t it? Are you a mom that is always home alone with the kids and dreams of having time to yourself? I think when we give so much of our energy every day to our family and our home, it gets very draining and we start to dream about the day when we finally get time to ourselves. But what happens when we finally do get to be home alone?
I recently discovered that being home alone by yourself isn’t always a great thing. My kids had Spring Break this week.My husband thought it would be great to take the kids to their grandparents for a visit, which meant a 5+ hour drive. Since I had to work this week, I couldn’t join them. That doesn’t sound like such a bad thing does it? Well, you try going from being in a home with 8 people to just 1 person and see how well you adjust! Here are 5 reasons why being home alone isn’t such a wonderful thing.
1. Cooking Dinners for 1
Having a large family, I am used to cooking large meals. I have 6 boys and a husband that love their food and after cooking for 8 people all the time, it is hard to figure out how to prepare dinner for one person again. Take out is starting to look real good to me right now since I don’t have to mess up pots and pans for only myself. Staying at home alone by yourself is tough when all your recipe books are for family meals and you don’t want to fill your fridge with leftovers. I’m starting to understand why men have a hard time feeding themselves when their wives go away.
2. Can’t Use the Dishwasher
Did you know that only one person in the house doesn’t dirty the dishes as fast? While I have always been frustrated by how quickly the dishes seem to stack up and how loaded our dishwasher can get, I can’t justify running it for only a couple of items. That means I have to handwash. I really don’t want to be handwashing dishes when I’m supposed to be having a break. I am starting to think I should be inviting people over just so they can eat off my plates… and so I can cook dinner for more than 1 person.
3. Lack of Conversation
I don’t have my husband here to debrief the day with. He always does a good job of sitting there and letting me process through my work day but with him gone, the cat is doing her best but shows little interest. I don’t have my kids coming to me to share what they have discovered nor are there any fights for me to break up and mediate. While I don’t feel I’m a person that talks too much, I do think I have a quota of words I need to get out every day and I’m not getting to use them when I’m home alone by myself with no one to talk to. I feel sorry for my husband when he gets home. He’s got a lot of listening to do.
4. It’s Too Quiet
When you are a mom, you gauge when something is wrong by when the kids suddenly go from noisy to quiet. You know they are up to something and that you should probably intervene before you have a disaster to clean up. The constant screams, happy laughter, playtime chatter or annoying music from your kids’ favourite TV program can drive you crazy, but when it’s suddenly gone… all you hear is the hum of the appliances and it feels empty. Sure, the quiet is nice for a few minutes but when it goes on for a couple of days?
5. There is Still Housework Left to Do
Think there’s nothing to do when the family is away? Believe you can use all your new free time to catch up on all your favourite TV shows? Wrong. This is the time you can get caught up on all that housework you’ve been unable to do because you’ve been trying to keep up with everything else. As you fold each piece of laundry, you miss your family even more and wish you could be with them instead. I’m not having a great time being home alone.
Verdict on being home alone
Being a mom and staying home alone isn’t all it’s made out to be. It’s boring and it’s lonely. When the family is home, housework can be divided between 8 people, rather than just 1. Meals are easier to prepare with more people. You can have conversations….. Maybe I should just call my husband and tell them to come home early?
What do you think about being a mom home alone? Still think it sounds like a good idea? What would you do with your free time when you’re home alone by yourself?