We have twin boys. They are now 3 years old and we are determined to have them potty trained by the time they reach college.
Because there are two needing to be potty trained, we have two potty chairs. We don’t usually get two of everything, but when one has to sit on the potty, the other one isn’t too far behind starting to show signs that he too should be sitting on a potty.
What Are The Signs?
Because I have boys, I watch for the universal sign of the tug/pinch. They will grab at themselves and bother with it until we tell them to sit on the potty. Almost immediately, they’ll empty their little bladders.
Pausing during play time is another sign. They’ll be playing with a toy or chatting with their brothers and then…freeze. They are thinking about what’s about to happen and if you don’t catch them and have them sit on the potty, bad things happen.
A common clue is when they make a quick dash for the stash of diapers. Going in a diaper is familiar and they don’t want wet underwear, wet clothes or to pee on the floor, so the diapers look very appealing.
What Have I Tried?
What seems to be working for them is going diaper/underwear free at first to avoid the extra step of pulling underwear off when they don’t have that much time between recognizing they have to go and peeing.
Regular reminders to the point of being annoying has also been helpful. There are so many other things they would rather be doing, such as playing games with each others that they tune out the potty signal in their brain until it’s too late.
Banning diapers during the day is another helper. They hated that! They though it was a form of kid torture to not be allowed to have a diaper. They’ve gotten used to it though.
Praise, praise and more praise! We’ve done the charts (which didn’t really work for them) and we’ve done rewards. What worked the best was simply the act of marching with them to the bathroom and doing the ceremonial flush of the toilet. They wanted the big celebration and for it to be a big deal! And because there are two of them, there has been a lot of celebrating going on within seconds because each boy must flush what they make.
The Twins’ Favorite?
The most recent potty training experiment I did with the twins seemed to be their favorite. It was a Potty Party. I set them up in the living room with juice, hot chocolate, chips and salsa, nearby potty chairs and all the refills they wanted while they watched a documentary on a turtle in the ocean. They had a blast placing orders for more juice as they watched their show. Soon, the juice started to go through their systems and those potty chairs were looking pretty good. It was a productive day.
Final Random Thoughts
Never give up.
Wait until their ready or you’ll get frustrated and so will the kids.
Find what methods they respond to stick with it for a time.
Keep it exciting, no matter how many buckets of pee you have to dump into the toilet, remember to celebrate it like it was the best pee you have ever seen.
Be creative. You never know what you can come up with, like a potty party, that will make training interesting and fun for kids.
And remember the fun memories of potty training. Something silly might happen, like potty seats getting stuck on kids’ heads…..